If you have ever watched porn..

I was thinking regarding porn. I will not go into the logic of whether one should watch or not. More importantly I want you to think on few points..

1. Do you remember the face of that girl (or boy) once you are done watching? (Unless you are not watching the same everytime.)

2. Isn't the porn is more about domination of female which makes you happy? If it is so you must change the reason to watch.

We talk about equal rights to women and their empowerment.

Who was civilized?

Some thoughts from the book, "Letters from a Father to his Daughter" by Jawaharlal Nehru:

1. How we can find that a person or society is barbarous or civilized? Many people in Europe think that they are civilized and the people of Asia are quite barbarous. One of the reason is that they put more clothes than Asians or Africans. But clothes depends on the climate. In a cold climate men put more clothes than in a hot climate.

2. Do you think killing people is a civilized or sensible thing? Off course not. When in my college to students fight, we say how silly they are, who will say that they are professionals. But how much sillier or more foolish it is for great countries to fight with each other. Millions got killed in the first and second world war. It was between the countries who call them self civilized.

3.I agree fine buildings, fine pictures, good books are certainly sign of a good civilization. But a even better and much brighter sign is of a fine man who is unselfish and works with others for good of all. Britishers came to India for there selfish means. They were mean, and lived in our country just to serve there needs. They made the country more poorer.

If "Honest" is to "Dishonest", "Love" is to "Indifference"..not hate !!

"Opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference"..

A friend said to me this and told me about his story. Well connecting the broken chain I recollected my past experiences. Had a thought about my friend Ambuj who committed suicide in college. Finally my soul compelled me to write what happens when you part with the person you love.

"I don't hate her Shrikant, I tried generating hatred..for a long period of time I convinced myself that I hate a girl like her. But a point came when "Indifference" came. I stopped hating her and a emotion captured me, "The trait of remaining calm and seeming not to care; a casual lack of concern". "

My friend continues, "Your heart has to break one day, it's good in my case it happened early. I am thankful she is not there, we would have been happy or not it is a different thing but there is a huge difference between me then and me now. I remember asking her that how can you change so much?, how can you be so cruel that you are leaving me to die? She gave me the answer by disconnecting the phone but now I have the answer. It is not anyone changes, slowly they reveal there true color and this makes us uncomfortable compelling us to think how can the person change. I remember meeting her first time. We agreed on everything and were ready to sacrifice everything but slowly we normalized, became frank and then we revealed the true color. My honest and platonic feeling and her opportunist feeling for me".

"There is a moment in life when you pray for her, then you pray for yourself then you stop praying. Finally you are enlightened, it is you are out of the break-up period..you know how tough it was for you and you wish this thing should never happen to her. That's let go. This is when you say goodbye which is the last stage of true love."

What I feel is, when you "part" you think that you can never fall in love with other person. You do not appreciate any other beauty on this earth. But in actual you are searching for "Exclusivity." You are searching for a person who would be exactly like that person. But this is not possible. Every person has some traits, qualities and habits which are limited to that person. Not possessed by anyone in the world. When that person leaves you a void is created. That void is not for the person it is for the feelings and emotions.You will control that void one day consciously or unconsciously but you cannot fill that. A new person will create his new space. But that void will be there and time will control it. Be brave life is short to think about things which are not with us, it is as useless as not appreciating things which we possess. 

Few people are emotionally vulnerable. They do foolish things as an act of self pity. If you have done it don't worry these memories will make you laugh one day. Keep it in that void. It is better that person left you, trust me you will meet a person who will be better than the previous one in terms of honesty, compatibility and understanding.What else you need?