Testing my everything..

These days no one calls me. Daily in the night I check all the contacts on my Nokia phone..thinking which Friend to call. Then I realize there are so many to call. But then my conscience speaks up telling me you have already called these persons last time and they have not reciprocated you with a call.

So alone I am and perhaps this is true with most of the aspirant of Civil Services.
One day one of my friend was shouting on phone..I could here a female voice next side. I asked, "Whom you were shouting at?". He replied, who else will bear our tantrums..it's my mother only..she is the one who calls me regularly.

Dear you, these difficult times are a test on me. Not only on me but it is checking all my friends, relatives, patience, peace, confidence and everything known to me.

Discussing the same thing with a friend telling him about the test we are going through. He cried telling me that his girlfriend never calls him. Huh??? I told him wait your parents will call you alternatively.

Then she said, "Wish I could have slapped you"

Just outside Shadipur Metro Station, I was returning back to my flat. Suddenly what we see is a man slapped a woman who was having a child. She said, "Wish I could have slapped you". We intervened and seeing us intervening others also mustered up the courage to take a stand. We questioned the man that even if she is your wife how can you slap her..I held the man griping his hand and asked her wife to leave warning the man that if he didn't allow we will call the police. The woman left, the man said pleadingly that, sometimes it is necessary to hit a woman to take control.

The statement kept my mind busy, and I was thinking whether is it necessary to hit sometimes?

1. While discussing we agreed husband and wife are of equal status in the relationship. If one has the right to hit in extreme conditions the other too must also have it. So woman must also have the right to hit and the husband must not get upset. More importantly, in any relationship when you have a need to hit then it means you are not compatible with each other. I say, if she cheats on you, betrays you or any unexceptional explanation of your cause...better leave her. Part away peacefully or get it discussed because once violence comes in there is no rewind to that episode to undo things. A void or stain marks it.

2. I asked Saurav is it? He said Shrikant when I was returning back with you unintentionally I hit a street dog by a small stone. You immediately told my to go and hit those men standing over there and if you can't do not hit this dog. Same with domestic violence men think they are earning, India has patriarchal society, they reproduce, they have the dick so you can hit, more importantly you know that you are physically more able than the woman. You know you will win so you do. Women need to retaliate the first time only. Once they did finely men will never dare again.

 Finally, do we need to have domestic violence. I think violence of any kind, whatsoever be the reason cannot be justified. She wished she could have slapped that man, just her physical constraint stopped her. Fight with equals (equals in physique). 

Never Pay for sex, reasons..

Today while discussing one of the friend cited his story of his trip to G.B.Road(Red Light Area). In between one of the friend said, "One must Never pay for sex". The discussion became intense and reached to few conclusions.

1. In India unlike developed countries prostitution generally starts in the form of forced sex. You cannot make excuse that by offering money in exchange of sex you are contributing to their livelihood. If you want to contribute rehabilitate them. Don't encourage prostitution.

2. How can one justify casual sex? Think...

3. I believe "Lust" is a negative emotion. How can one negative emotion dominate us so much that we divorce our self from our own positives.

4. Importantly, it is likely observed that a person who is ready to pay for sex can be a potential rapist. I don't say all of them..but yes, you must agree for some of them and any percentage of rapist is dangerous.

5. People say legalizing prostitution  will help to prevent rape. It is a very strong argument. But you must agree to this also that forced sex which is an explicit nature of prostitution is taking the fundamental right of a human being i.e. Right to have dignified life.

6. What's wrong in casual sex? If two people agree..then you must have sex. But Navneet cited a very important point ( I was like...agreed). There are many shades of a person's personality. Like for a girl it is her caring nature, simplicity, compassion, anger, freedom, etc.. how can just one element of her shade i.e. physical appearance dominate other shades. If it does our thinking is very narrow. We must try to overcome such a feeling.