Just outside Shadipur Metro Station, I was returning back to my flat. Suddenly what we see is a man slapped a woman who was having a child. She said, "Wish I could have slapped you". We intervened and seeing us intervening others also mustered up the courage to take a stand. We questioned the man that even if she is your wife how can you slap her..I held the man griping his hand and asked her wife to leave warning the man that if he didn't allow we will call the police. The woman left, the man said pleadingly that, sometimes it is necessary to hit a woman to take control.
The statement kept my mind busy, and I was thinking whether is it necessary to hit sometimes?
1. While discussing we agreed husband and wife are of equal status in the relationship. If one has the right to hit in extreme conditions the other too must also have it. So woman must also have the right to hit and the husband must not get upset. More importantly, in any relationship when you have a need to hit then it means you are not compatible with each other. I say, if she cheats on you, betrays you or any unexceptional explanation of your cause...better leave her. Part away peacefully or get it discussed because once violence comes in there is no rewind to that episode to undo things. A void or stain marks it.
2. I asked Saurav is it? He said Shrikant when I was returning back with you unintentionally I hit a street dog by a small stone. You immediately told my to go and hit those men standing over there and if you can't do not hit this dog. Same with domestic violence men think they are earning, India has patriarchal society, they reproduce, they have the dick so you can hit, more importantly you know that you are physically more able than the woman. You know you will win so you do. Women need to retaliate the first time only. Once they did finely men will never dare again.
Finally, do we need to have domestic violence. I think violence of any kind, whatsoever be the reason cannot be justified. She wished she could have slapped that man, just her physical constraint stopped her. Fight with equals (equals in physique).
The statement kept my mind busy, and I was thinking whether is it necessary to hit sometimes?
1. While discussing we agreed husband and wife are of equal status in the relationship. If one has the right to hit in extreme conditions the other too must also have it. So woman must also have the right to hit and the husband must not get upset. More importantly, in any relationship when you have a need to hit then it means you are not compatible with each other. I say, if she cheats on you, betrays you or any unexceptional explanation of your cause...better leave her. Part away peacefully or get it discussed because once violence comes in there is no rewind to that episode to undo things. A void or stain marks it.
2. I asked Saurav is it? He said Shrikant when I was returning back with you unintentionally I hit a street dog by a small stone. You immediately told my to go and hit those men standing over there and if you can't do not hit this dog. Same with domestic violence men think they are earning, India has patriarchal society, they reproduce, they have the dick so you can hit, more importantly you know that you are physically more able than the woman. You know you will win so you do. Women need to retaliate the first time only. Once they did finely men will never dare again.
Finally, do we need to have domestic violence. I think violence of any kind, whatsoever be the reason cannot be justified. She wished she could have slapped that man, just her physical constraint stopped her. Fight with equals (equals in physique).
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